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What is asexuality?

Please see the information on the Asexual Visibility and Education Network website. There is plenty of information that we don't repeat here on this website. Briefly, an asexual person is a person who does not experience sexual attraction.

Why have a personals website for asexual people?

Many asexual people desire loving caring relationships. In a world where sexual intimacy is promoted as the norm, and sex is assumed to be an extremely important thing and an 'expected' part of having a relationship, asexual people seeking relationships usually find themselves in situations where they are expected to be sexual.

Many asexual people often feel pressured to fake sexual attraction or interest in order to fit in or they fade into the background when sex comes into the conversation. If an asexual person doesn't play along and pretend they have sexual thoughts and feelings, it is usually difficult for them to find satisfying close meaningful relationships with others.

Finding friends where you are accepted as an asexual person is still relatively rare - and it is especially difficult for asexual people when seeking out a relationship. These personals hope to make this task a little easier for asexual people.

What does a relationship with an asexual person look like?

Asexual relationships are still currently a 'blank slate'. There are no rules dictating how non-sexual love is expressed. There are myriad ways for people who are asexual to form close bonds and relationships with others.

Some asexual people enjoy physical closeness, perhaps cuddling or stroking, with their partner. Others express intimacy through talking, maybe sharing their innermost fears and secrets or by making each other laugh. An asexual person might feel intimacy with their partner by sharing common interests and activities or by working together toward common goals. Some asexual people keep close friendships, some enjoy 'traditional' (but not sexual) romantic couplings. Others form completely different, perhaps unique, relationships. Many asexual people consider their relationships to be outside the experience of our culture, there are no words to describe the bonds they make with other people. The possibilities for non-sexual intimacy are vast.

As an asexual personals site, why the categories? 

Many asexual people have an orientation towards whom they would like to develop a friendship with or a relationship with (they only fall for certain types of people). Some asexual people only form relationships with a person of the opposite sex - while others prefer to have a relationship with men or only women. Other asexual people identify as bisexual because their relationships are not based upon gender.

Asexual people often form unconventional relationships and might identify as polyamorous or queer. There is no reason why you have to identify as just one thing.... you can be authentic to yourself and possibly make up your own entirely new identity.

I'm not an asexual person - can I still place an personal ad on this site? 

If you're not an asexual person, it's probably better that you place an ad for friendship. Making friends and meeting people who are asexual and comfortable with themselves is probably the best place to start learning more about asexuality.

Another website - the Asexual Visibility and Education Network is a great place to interact with asexual people, ask questions and learn more about the experiences and views of this emerging group of people.

I am an asexual person - is there anything I need to know before placing a personal ad on this site? 

There's a few things - they are outlined on this page.

If your question wasn't answered on this page - please email the siteowner, and we'll do our best to include it here with an answer.